Hi guys, here’s exactly what you need to do to level up as a man physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. If I’ve missed something add it to the comments and I’ll add it to the post.
First I’d like to begin with a quote from Hafeez from The Roommates.
The goal of every man should be to constantly improve himself physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.
Every man should be in a perpetual state of leveling up/self improvement until he takes his last breath
A month ago I was stuck, stuck in life, my finances weren’t improving, my health was declining, I hated myself and I started to hate the world and even God. I spent most of my days constantly complaining, hating myself, and watching anime. But recently I decided to change, I did my research and began taking steps to actively solve my problems. Here’s how you can do the same.
1. Wake up early
Waking up early gives you the time to improve yourself. It gives you time to recover the lost time you spent being average/mediocre. Set a time you feel comfortable, don’t go cold turkey on this otherwise, you will fail. If you wake up at 9, start waking up at 8:30 am if you wake up at 7, start at 6:30 am, and so on. I was brought up in an African home so I used to wake up at 7 every day from as far as I can remember and on school days I would wake up at 5 am, so I had to shift to waking up at 6:30, now I can wake up at 4:40. Once you can wake up automatically at this time, or you are comfortable deduct another 30 mins do that until you can wake up at 5 or 5:30 am. Now don’t stay in bed. The moment the alarm sounds, count to 5 and wake up whether you like it or not. Implement the 5 count rule, where if you don’t want to do something that you know is beneficial count to 5 then do it.
I’d suggest you pray if you are a Christian(like me), Muslim, Hindu, and all other religions. Talk to your God. Read His Word. I believe my God is the greatest, that doesn’t mean I want to fight you or hate you just because you worship a different god. If you don’t believe in God then I suggest you meditate though it would be better to become a Christian. #nohateordiscrimination
3. Work out
Try something simple for 1 month like Pushups(even inclined if you can’t do the regular version), squats, and leg raises with your stomach in.
I’d suggest you do this in 10 increments. Start with 10 on the first day, then 20 on the 2nd then 30, and so on. Keep raising it until you ABSOLUTELY can not finish the workout, don’t be afraid to rest in between reps as long as the rest doesn’t exceed 3 minutes. If you’ve reached your limit where you can no longer do more reps each day. Go back to 10. I started this on 1st, am at 60 reps. Feel free to do more if you’d like but make sure you do these 3 every single day, no rest days. Once you are on your 10th day, add calve raises, crunches, and dips. On your 20th incorporate 3 new exercises that hit the group of muscles that squats, pushups, and leg raises hit. On the 30th day add 3 new exercises + bridges. I now do push-ups(chest and arms), leg raises(abs), squats(legs), bridges(but), calve raises(calves), and dips(triceps). Once you reach 50 add planks(50 seconds). 100? you can take a day off every week. Hit 500? take 3 days break. Hit 600? start all over with more complex workouts.
I’m no physical fitness expert. These exercises are meant to be simple that you can perform every single day without a gym.
I suggest reading 10 pages a day. Start with self-help books. I recommended some in a previous post.
You can even try audiobooks and summaries. There’s a guy on YouTube who makes great summaries: One Percent Better, search and try ‘The Rational Male” summary.
5. Define your purpose/passion and visualize
All men require a passion or purpose. If you have none, create one out of the things you like and love. Mine is building meaningful products that each tackle a problem in the world. I lost this during the depression I was in but I redefined it.
So write down your purpose/passion then write down what is necessary to achieve it. Dream big bro. Don’t limit yourself. Once you have the requirements necessary to reach it, phrase them in 3 months time, 6 months time, a years time, 5 years time, 10 years time, and 30 years time. Here is where you need to be realistic. You can’t be a millionaire in 3 months unless you have a millionaire backing you. Work tirelessly to meet these goals.
Now if you have a purpose, visualize yourself accomplished. Think about how great it would feel and what you would have if this purpose is realized. Use your mind’s eye and creativity. It might be helpful to build a visualization board that contains photo snippets of how you want to look, what you want to own, and how you want to feel. Use Canva, Spark Post, Photoshop, or even Microsoft Word to build it then print it and stick it somewhere within your field of vision where you can look at it almost all the time before and after sleeping.
QUICK TIP: DON’T LET YOUR GOAL BE MONEY. INSTEAD, FIND SOMETHING THAT CAN PROVIDE VALUE TO OTHERS AT THE SAME TIME BRINGING YOU MONEY AND SATISFACTION.
Money chasers die without actualizing their dream. Greed will kill you.
P.S: I’m not saying that you shouldn’t chase money, just don’t let it be all you chase.
6. Learn a high-value skill
I’d suggest signing up for Skillshare, use this link to get 1 free premium month worth of content: https://skl.sh/3wxbE9O
I’m currently learning
- Financial Literacy
- Web Design with Figma and Webflow
- Facebook ADS
- Graphic Design
- Ruby on Rails
- Web Development
7. Eat clean and healthy
As my teacher: Amerix always says:
If it is packed in a box, is fortified, is promoted by marketers, if marketers tell you “it is healthy”, if your great grandfather doesn’t recognize it. DON’T EAT IT!
I would suggest you go for Low/NO Sugar, No Soy, Moderate Sodium, High Fat, Low Carbs, More Veggies, More Meat, More Water, More Fiber, and Less Frequently
Sugar is very bad and harmful to your health. Phase it out.
Soy kills sperms, reduces testosterone, and creates estrogen. Go cold turkey.
Sodium is an electrolyte, use it moderately but don’t remove it completely.
Fat is very good for you, it doesn’t make you fat and it is used to build testosterone the primary male hormone responsible for spermatogenesis(production of sperm), muscle mass, health, and well-being. Skip “vegetable oils/butter/fat”, they are unhealthy and harmful. Go for butter, lard, coconut, or olive oil. Add it!
Eat fewer carbs and only eat unrefined that’s fibrous e.g. beans, pumpkins, veggies. Minimize starchy unrefined carbs like sweet potatoes and arrowroots. Remove all refined carbs like maize/wheat flour, soda, fruit juices, sugar. Reduce it.
Vegetables are healthy and good for you. This is a no-brainer. Increase it.
Meat is absolutely important. Go for “natural” meat or otherwise know as grass-fed meat. Skip sausages and anything you can’t make yourself with natural ingredients(avoid soy sauce). Increase it.
Water is a no-brainer. Drink lots but modulate, there’s such a thing as water toxicity/intoxication and hyponatremia(low electrolytes due to “flashing” caused by a water and electrolyte imbalance. If you experience nausea, vomiting, cramps, and fatigue after drinking a lot of water lick some salt.) Remember the body knows how much water it needs. Drink two glasses of water in the morning right after waking up. Modulate it.
Eat less frequently. Science has found correlations between long life spans and low frequency of eating. I suggest eating once a day, one and a half times a day or employing Intermittent Fasting. On Wednesdays eat supper early at 6 pm then skip meals till Friday at 7 pm, this is called Autophagy. Research! Reduce Frequency but Eat More.
Writing has serious mental health benefits even if it’s not journaling + if you keep a blog like this, it can eventually grow to become a passive income source. Start by writing things you are grateful for then move to a journal then try blogging or you could do the process in reverse. Need a blog? Contact me and I’ll build one for you in less than a day. Contact me: email@example.com to get a blog at very affordable prices, if you would like it with a custom domain name you may have to pay slightly more but you can always start with something like “aramsblog.netlify.app”.
9. Get a job or build a business
You need to get your finances in order once your mind and body are in order. Find a job or build a business around something you are competent or love. I am building my own business as I look for jobs. if I get blessed with a job, great, if my business succeeds even better, I’ve always wanted to employ myself since I was young. I had a business mindset but I wouldn’t turn away a job. I’d still be happy.
Whatever comes first!
10. Find good friends
I have never been good at making friends, I first had social anxiety before becoming introverted. I don’t necessarily like being an introvert but I don’t hate it either, the best way I’d describe it is a “tussle” between love and hate. But I am blessed to have friends with equally crazy dreams and we push each other forward. Find a good group of friends specifically male friends who will push you as you push them, who will be there for you when the challenges of life exceed your strength. Find trustworthy ones. Test them. For example, one day scare them with the “Hi, kindly help me, I’m in jail and I need bail” text. Some will genuinely not have enough money to support you others will support you, many will lie or laugh at you. Trust your gut.
11. Trust your instinct/gut
Look, many times your gut will tell you that your girl is cheating or something along those lines, many times we let our emotions rule us and dismiss this feeling. Look you are a man, if your gut tells you she’s cheating, confront her, go through her phone, remember in exchange for your love, attention, provision, penetration, and leadership she gives you her freedom and love(don’t be controlling), go through her phone, questions her, most of the time, it’s you brain that notices small cues like her putting a little more work towards her outfit and makeup just to meet the “girls” or she’s restricting sex. These are red flags. Your brain picks them up subconsciously then your gut brings them to the conscious mind. Don’t let emotions or even logic rule over you. If your gut brings something up, investigate get to the root cause until it stops or you find out something is wrong. This applies to friends. Your gut isn’t always right but it’s almost always right.
12. Dress and groom yourself
Look, you can’t be a 10 without putting more work into how you look. Go to Pinterest, check up on some men’s styles, and pick one of your preferences. Stick to it, if you get bored, go back to Pinterest, choose another. Guys level up your wardrobe. Remove graphic tees in favor of plain ones. If you are above 25 starts including some suits, cardigans, and more adult “stuff” while still keeping youthful clothing. When you approach 30 start phasing those out slowly. I’d suggest you start with essentials, speaking of essentials, try out my sponsor ESNTLS, I have a 10% Off deal with them go pick up a few stuff there and integrate it into your wardrobe. Here’s a link with the 10% discount already applied: ESNTLS, pick up some shades/glasses too: JadeBlack same 10% off deal. Would you like to smell good too? Try Santa Lucia Fragrance, same 10% off. Remember using skin products is not effeminate. But keep them to a minimal ( Hint: if you have more skincare products than your girlfriend, tone it down)
13. Be more assertive
You gotta stand up for yourself man! I suggest you use the No, Yes rule where you first say no, then think about it then say Yes. I recently got myself into some huge mess that had me paying some money every single month, I didn’t want to but because I wanted to be respectful and “nice” I agreed, now I regret doing it don’t be like me. Say no then yes. Don’t be a “nice” guy. In fact let me give you a secret, have you ever wondered why women go after bad boys? It’s because they are assertive, they don’t take or make excuses, she failed to show up to your date? Time her out and find other women. She did something wrong to you? Withdraw your attention from her and give it to other women who value it. Kill oneitis bro. Be assertive. You are the prize. Value yourself. If she cheats, forgive her and move on, don’t accept back a hoe, she will walk all over you and cheat again. Value yourself. Value your time. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Don’t waste your time. Don’t be a nice guy, if she does something that upsets you, tell her, don’t shout just tell her. Bro, you deserve much better. Listen to this fact: If she is withholding sex when you want it, dump her and move on(unless there’s a valid reason) because women who love and want you will want to have sex with you. So stand up for yourself and be assertive.
14. Invest in yourself
Guys, think long-term. Start investing in stocks, money market funds, cryptocurrencies, index funds, ETFs, bills, bonds, and yourself. Create an emergency fund capable of taking you 12 months when you have no job or income. Remember women want men with resources. But don’t do this for them, do it for you. Guys, I’ve posted several articles on investing. Go read them.
The man who can not learn get’s left behind.
Don’t wait to be spoon-fed. Actively research things that will help you.
15. Red pill yourself
No-brainer. Subscribe to Youtube Red Pillers, Follow on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Learn and Grow.
16. Shower? Cold
The benefits are written all over the internet, research.
17. Amass Knowledge, Skills, Money, and Intelligence
No-brainer no 2. Grow and focus on yourself and your family. To quote the famous Chris Brown quote
These hoes ain’t loyal.
Bros, be careful some women only want your money and good genes, others have been found impregnating themselves with semen in a condom. Flush those things down after use.
It won’t kill you to stay single and celibate
As I keep repeating focus on yourself and your family. These hoes ain’t loyal. A woman will never love you the way you want to be loved. There are good women out there but remember women are governed by their emotions, one day she’s fine and the next she’s killing you slowly with poison just to get her hands on your hard-earned money. Focus bro!
Read the books recommended in step one. Take a look at my other articles. Women want an assertive, dominant, resourceful, alpha male who can lead and provide but can still hunker down and settle/commit. Don’t be in a hurry to marry. Survey the market, don’t lower your standards for anyone.
REMEMBER: YOU ARE LIKE FINE WINE, THE OLDER YOU GET THE BETTER YOU TASTE, BUT SHE’S LIKE FRUIT JUICE, OVER TIME SHE LOSES HER TASTE.
In conclusion: Girls become women once they are able to bear children, boys become men once they are “initiated” or once they met certain requirements.
Bonus: 18. Gain the abundance mindset
Gain the abundance mindset whether it is in dating, money, and more.
Did she break up with you? There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Did she cheat? Read answer 1. Did you miss a job? Keep looking, that wasn’t for you.
Remember there’s enough of everything to go around. Don’t settle on one thing or one missed opportunity. Bounce back.
For those in this journey with me: Greatness is Coming! Look Forward. Shoulders Back and Chest Puffed Up!
Have a great day men in the making!
Women, no offense but all that is written here is scientifically proven. Still, feel free to write your thoughts down below.
Next time I’ll list some of the RedPill and Masculinity YouTube channels, Twitter, and Instagram accounts all men should follow/subscribe to.
And that’s it, bros. See you next time. Got plenty of articles you can read. Go check them out.
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